First dates can be awkwardnerve-wracking, exciting, disastrous, wonderful — any of things. A big part of this distinction is the first impression you each give and how well you and the other person connect. We all know by now that topics like religion, politics, and the like are best to avoid if you want a first encounter to stay positive and light-hearted. It might be obvious, but the easiest way to connect with someone is to get them talking about themselves. Ask about their hobbies, their interests… do they enjoy activities like sports, painting, spending time outside, reading, or dancing?
If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up? What are your thoughts on online dating or tinder? If you had the ability to erase something that you did in the past, what would it be?
If I asked you at age 5 what you wanted to be when you grew up, what would you say? If you could take us anywhere in the world right now, where would you take us? If you could do one thing without suffering the consequences, what would you do? Is there something out there, a thought, an idea, a current event, or a fear that you find deeply unsettling?
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What would you consider to be your deepest fear? This question can be really telling of the depth or lack thereof of a person. Is there an activity that calms you? A place or a thing that makes you feel at ease? Do you have a favorite book? A line in a piece of literature?
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A poem? Why do you relate to it? Can you remember a time in your life you felt the most alive? Tell me everything about that memory. When have you felt like you were living life to the fullest? Have you always had the same political beliefs?
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Is there something that impacted them? What has been the biggest change you ever made that made you the most proud of yourself? Think about the people you love the most in your life, what do you do for them? Is home for you a place or a feeling? Describe that place or describe that feeling. If you could be anywhere other than where you are right now, where would you be and what would you be looking at? Do you believe more in fate or that we are the creators of our own destinies because we are governed by free will?
What would be your thought process if you were presented with irrefutable evidence that a god did exist?
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If you could have the option of eradicating pain from your life would you choose to do so? Why or why not? Do you believe yourself to be truly free? If so, why? If not, what is holding you back? What was your father or mother like at home? How does he or she act different outside of family? If you were given a choice to choose your manner of death, how would you die?
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If you were forced to vote for one the biggest dictators of history, Hitler, Mussolini, Mugabe, Mao, Saddam or Stalinwhich one would you pick and why? If you could have any animal in the world as a pet, what would it be and why?
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If you were given a chance to explore the oceans, go to outer space or visit 50 different countries, which one you choose and why? Out of the negative emotions of greed, anger, jealousy and hate, which one would you say affects you the most? Out of the positive emotions of compassion, positivity, enthusiasm and initiative, which one is your biggest strength? If you could be President of your country for an hour, what is the one thing that you would change? If you were given a choice to turn into a zombie or to die, which would you pick?
If you had to pick one, what is the most important value you would teach your children?
Honesty, Kindness or Courage? Name one really surprising thing that set your heart pumping and gave you an adrenaline rush. Tell me about the time you were so embarrassed in love, you wished you could disappear right there and then. Tell me about your biggest love regret that made you wish you could turn back time? If you were forced to pick one religion on this planet, which one would it be and why?
What is the most romantic and loving thing you have ever done for somebody? How would you summarize your life purpose?
Learn more about Thought Catalog and our writers on our about. You may unsubscribe at any time. By Rania Naim Updated July 15, These deep questions are the perfect questions to get to know someone.
If you meet someone you feel an immediate connection with, ask them these deep questions to get to know them on an intimate level as quickly as possible. About the author Writing makes me feel alive. Words heal me. More From Thought Catalog.
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